The New Prince Charming

The New Prince Charming

Hey guys…are you a good boy or a bad boy?  Today’s Prince Charming is a balance between Bad Boy and Mr. Sensitive.  Think of it as a practical application of balance.  Most of us are familiar with the Taoist symbol that depicts yin and yang as opposites in balance.  The name for this symbol is Taijitu or The Diagram of the Supreme Ultimate.  It is a depiction of a state of wholeness.

Yin and Yang

Wholeness requires acceptance of all aspects of life.  For example, you have a right hand and a left one.  If you only allow yourself to only make left hand turns, then your path is a circle.  As you know, we often depict someone who is lost as endlessly circling back to the same spot.  Life’s journey requires us to make both left and right hand turns.

So what does this have to do with Prince Charming?

In the 1970’s there was a show on television called “Happy Days”.  As the show developed, two male characters emerged, Fonzie and Richie.  These two characters were total opposites.  Fonzie wore a leather jacket and biker boots.  He rode a motorcycle.  Fonzie was a “bad boy” who defined “cool”.  The girls loved him and Fonzie frequently had a different beautiful girl on his arm.  On the other hand, Richie wore crisp button down shirts and loafers.  He was a nice guy who defined “boring”.  Even though he was smart, clean cut, and conformed to all of the rules, he struggled to get dates.  The girls just weren’t that interested.

On a superficial level you might conclude that if you’re a teenage boy, being Fonzie is way better than Richie.  However, as the show developed, so did the characters.  Fonzie began to reveal his soft sensitive side and Richie showed his grit.  The characters became less superficial and more whole.  Consequently, Fonzie met someone special and abandoned his playboy role.  Likewise, once Richie found himself, he found his girl.

Over the years, I asked a lot of women what they look for in a guy.  Do they want Fonzie or Richie? Most have told me they want both.  They want a guy who is both a Bad Boy and Mr. Sensitive.  For them, that is the new Prince Charming.

What are your thoughts?


Peace out,


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As long as Robert can remember, he wanted to be a writer. Like many young people who are called to a creative life, he had to contend with well-meaning friends and family members who discouraged it. While Robert spent most of his career as a successful attorney, he never forgot his dream. In the meantime, he pursued many other interests and was fortunate enough to have some amazing adventures. One of those interests was martial arts. He spent many years studying and teaching Chinese Internal Martial Arts. Robert promised his teacher he would someday write that book he always wanted to write and began to develop a story idea that pitted a young lawyer/martial artist against a powerful pharmaceutical company in a conflict over a miracle cure. The hero wants to insure the cure is freely available to everyone, but powerful enemies want to suppress it. The Nostrum Conspiracy is Robert’s second book. His first book, Naked Tao, breaks a few rules.

Robert has been blessed with an amazing life and it just keeps getting better. He lives in Louisville with his beautiful wife and children. "Bad Bob" is a tongue-in-cheek nick name bestowed upon him by his co-workers when he showed up at his law firm one day on a new Harley. Robert is a martial arts master and has taught over 600 students.

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