The New Prince Charming

The New Prince Charming

Hey guys…are you a good boy or a bad boy?  Today’s Prince Charming is a balance between Bad Boy and Mr. Sensitive.  Think of it as a practical application of balance.  Most of us are familiar with the Taoist symbol that depicts yin and yang as opposites in balance.  The name for this symbol is Taijitu or The Diagram of the Supreme Ultimate.  It is a depiction of a state of wholeness.

Yin and Yang

Wholeness requires acceptance of all aspects of life.  For example, you have a right hand and a left one.  If you only allow yourself to only make left hand turns, then your path is a circle.  As you know, we often depict someone who is lost as endlessly circling back to the same spot.  Life’s journey requires us to make both left and right hand turns.

So what does this have to do with Prince Charming?

In the 1970’s there was a show on television called “Happy Days”.  As the show developed, two male characters emerged, Fonzie and Richie.  These two characters were total opposites.  Fonzie wore a leather jacket and biker boots.  He rode a motorcycle.  Fonzie was a “bad boy” who defined “cool”.  The girls loved him and Fonzie frequently had a different beautiful girl on his arm.  On the other hand, Richie wore crisp button down shirts and loafers.  He was a nice guy who defined “boring”.  Even though he was smart, clean cut, and conformed to all of the rules, he struggled to get dates.  The girls just weren’t that interested.

On a superficial level you might conclude that if you’re a teenage boy, being Fonzie is way better than Richie.  However, as the show developed, so did the characters.  Fonzie began to reveal his soft sensitive side and Richie showed his grit.  The characters became less superficial and more whole.  Consequently, Fonzie met someone special and abandoned his playboy role.  Likewise, once Richie found himself, he found his girl.

Over the years, I asked a lot of women what they look for in a guy.  Do they want Fonzie or Richie? Most have told me they want both.  They want a guy who is both a Bad Boy and Mr. Sensitive.  For them, that is the new Prince Charming.

What are your thoughts?

 

Peace out,

Robert

Wild Places

Wild Places

Imagine a race across a thousand miles of snow covered backcountry.  Such a race would challenge the competitors’ endurance, fortitude, and survival skills.  The 2015 Iditarod has begun in Alaska and it defines dog sled races.

The Last Great Race

I asked a musher why he puts himself through such an ordeal.  His answer caught me by surprise.  He spoke of the bond between the dogs and the musher.  The musher tends to the dogs needs first.  Only after the dogs are fed, injuries treated, and beds of straw made, does he rest.  Still, he rarely sleeps more than a couple of hours at a time.  By the end of the race, he has depleted himself to the point of hallucination and collapse.

Dog Sled Racing in Alaska

But that wasn’t all he said about the Iditarod.  With a twinkle in his eye he spoke of the long hours spent in wild places…places unchanged by man.  As an old backpacker, I understood exactly what he meant.  We have surrounded ourselves with civilization.  The backcountry nurtures a part of us that is neglected in civilized places.  Fortunately, there is still plenty of backcountry to fill our need for wild places.

Alaskan Backcountry

To the places unchanged by man.

Peace out,

Robert

Food is Medicine

Food is Medicine

A well-stocked kitchen is your apothecary.  Fill it with foods that nourish your mind, body, and spirit.  For example, the evidence is mounting that Strawberries and Blueberries are super foods packed with enough antioxidants to keep your eyes sparkling for a long time.

Strawberries & Blueberries

A well-stocked kitchen is your apothecary.  Fill it with foods that nourish your mind, body, and spirit.  For example, the evidence is mounting that Strawberries and Blueberries are super foods packed with enough antioxidants to keep your eyes sparkling for a long time.  We love to toss them with raw honey and almond extract for a simple dish that leaves everyone wanting more.  To Your Good Health.

Peace out,

Robert

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Secrecy vs. Intimacy

Intimacy and secrecy are opposites.  If you are in a relationship, then secrets will block the intimacy you crave.

Choose intimacy.

Here are  a few simple things to increase intimacy in your relationships:

 

  • Accept yourself as you are. The culture of self-improvement has the unintended consequence of making us feel broken and needy. We are not that.
  • Trust your lover. Trust that your lover will accept you as you are. Your lover sees more of you than you realize. Pretending they don’t, doesn’t make it so.
  • Give straight answers. Have the courage to give straight answers to simple questions. Let go of the need to qualify your answers, or worse, ignore the question.
  • Choose intimacy. Each night before you fall asleep repeat to yourself, “I choose intimacy.” Each morning begin your day with the same choice.

 

The life you want for yourself and your lover is as simple as making small adjustments in your thinking.  It is at your fingertips.  Seize it.

 

Peace out,

Robert

 

Darkness on the Path

Darkness is the Great Mystery.

Light and dark define each other.

Light does not exist, but for darkness.  Light and dark define each other, yet we have bias against darkness and sometimes work diligently to eradicate it.  Darkness evokes images of suffering, fear, and the unknown, but could be viewed differently.  Darkness is the Great Mystery.  Shedding light on darkness doesn’t eliminate mystery.  Instead it reveals more mystery and that is a good thing, because the end of mystery is just that…the end.  Embrace life as it is.  Think for yourself and let mystery be mystery.

Peace out,

Robert

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Fresh

Fresh

Each and every day, without fail, I ask my wife to marry me. You might ask why I would do such a thing. Aside from the obvious explanation that dementia has set in and I’ve forgotten we are already married, I believe it is important to affirm each day that I choose her. Fortunately, she always answers “yes” to my question. Maybe it’s because the other part of the practice is I never stop working to win her heart.

 

Rebecca is my beautiful wife and the marketing manager at Naked Tao Publishing Company

Rebecca on her birthday.

We’ve all heard that the key to a successful marriage is keeping it fresh. This is my humble way of doing that. What are your thoughts on this practice?

 

Peace out,

Robert

Winds of Change

Change rides the wind like a cowboy rides a horse.  Somtimes the horse is gentle and slow.  Other times it wildly bucks and kicks in hopes of unseating the rider.  Either way, change has its way with us.

Change We Must

Few of us choose  the unbroken stallion over the gentle mare as a means of change, but the unbroken stallion is like a wild eyed radical that delivers a powerful wakeup call.  Divisiveness leads to madness that never ends well for any of us.

Peace out…

Robert