Intimacy and secrecy are opposites. If you are in a relationship, then secrets will block the intimacy you crave.
Here are a few simple things to increase intimacy in your relationships:
- Accept yourself as you are. The culture of self-improvement has the unintended consequence of making us feel broken and needy. We are not that.
- Trust your lover. Trust that your lover will accept you as you are. Your lover sees more of you than you realize. Pretending they don’t, doesn’t make it so.
- Give straight answers. Have the courage to give straight answers to simple questions. Let go of the need to qualify your answers, or worse, ignore the question.
- Choose intimacy. Each night before you fall asleep repeat to yourself, “I choose intimacy.” Each morning begin your day with the same choice.
The life you want for yourself and your lover is as simple as making small adjustments in your thinking. It is at your fingertips. Seize it.